PROVERBS 25:2               

It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter.

One major way through which God releases you into wealth is by joining you in marriage to whoever He has chosen for you in His purpose and plans for your life. When the two of you come together, then you both have two jobs to do on each other to see to it that wealth in each other is unlocked and manifested. One major cause of frustrations between spouses today is that many have not discovered the wealth in their spouse, and whenever the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse of that thing is inevitable. Somebody says, “But my wife doesn’t have wealth in her!” That is not true unless it wasn’t God that gave you that wife. If your spouse was given to you by God, you can be sure that there is wealth in that person. It may not be manifesting now, but it is there locked up inside, and it can be unlocked. 

HOW CAN YOU UNLOCK THE WEALTH IN YOUR SPOUSE?

1. UNDERSTAND THE PURPOSE OF GOD FOR YOUR SPOUSE

Ecclesiastes 3: 1

To everything, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven

In order to unlock the divine wealth in your spouse, the first thing you must do is to catch a glimpse of the purpose and the plan of God for that person. This is because it is in that plan that the wealth lies. Your wife may be a Primary School teacher by education and training, but by divine equipping and endowment, she is a major entrepreneur. She is a major woman of wealth, a woman of substance that will run a business at an international level. So you would need to discover how you will unlock that wealth and how you will take practical steps to lead to what God has ordained her to be.  

When God joined two people and said one would chase a thousand, and two will put ten thousand to flight (Deuteronomy 32:30), it is combining strength to bring about a major impact on the face of the earth, but you have to understand how that is going to come to pass. One major avenue through which God breaks it forth upon us is in the place of prayer. In prayer, you will experience that breaking forth of the Lord upon your spirit; there, the Lord helps you to see your spouse in the light of his or her purpose. In prayer, you know what you are gunning for and what you are helping the other person to be.  

If you have seen gold in its raw form, you will most likely throw it away because it does not look like gold. It takes people who have worked on gold over time to know it is gold. When those who know the gold in its raw form perform the necessary operations on it, that costly material called gold will come forth. Your spouse is like that too, he or she is a deposit of pure gold from the Lord, and if you know what to do with him or her, you will see the treasures that God has buried in him or her coming forth. 

2. HELP YOUR SPOUSE TO OVERCOME PERSONAL CHALLENGES

It is common today to find a man that is supposed to be the head of the home, the provider, the one that God is supposed to be channelling resources through his hands to the family, struggling because he is not planted by the water side and the anointing is not touching him. In Job 14:7, the Bible says that “There is a hope of the tree, that even it be cut down, but when the scent of water touches it, it will sprout up again, and it will grow.” So many people have been moved away from their place, where the anointing and the power of God can touch them.

There are people who, by virtue of the families they come from, their own mistakes and errors, the background that they have come from, the things of God, and the wealth that God has ordained for their destiny are so buried, hidden and covered that it will take strategic, consistent and peculiar ministration that is strong and committed to them year in, year out to get to the depth where that hidden generational wealth is buried. Then it begins to break out little by little before it comes to the surface.

3. BE A MAN OR WOMAN OF THE SPIRIT

RUTH 2:1-2

And Naomi had a kinsman of her husband’s, a mighty man of wealth, of the family of Elimelech; and his name was Boaz. And Ruth the Moabitess said unto Naomi, Let me now go to the field, and glean ears of corn after him in whose sight I shall find grace. And she said unto her, Go, my daughter.

Your husband or your wife is a great man or woman of wealth, even though he or she may not have a job now. The first thing you must do, however, is to find out if it is God that is joining you to that man or woman. If for a woman, the answer is ‘yes’, then that man is a mighty man of wealth. If for the man also the answer is ‘yes’, that woman is a great woman of substance. If you saw Ruth gleaning on the field, you wouldn’t know that she is a woman of wealth, a woman of substance; people called her “the Moabitess that followed Naomi from the land of Moab”, but in divine destiny, she was a woman of wealth. The truth I would like you to see is that further wealth for Boaz was also in Ruth.

Another dimension of God’s dealing began to happen in the life of Boaz when Ruth came into Bethlehem of Judah. God began to alter the equation of the life, posterity and future of Boaz for the better. As a man, you must understand that there is nobody that can magnify your glory as much as your wife. She is the only one that will run your business or affair as if you are the one and, at times, better than you can do. 

The residues of the spirit from the two sides have met, and the seed of God, the Messianic lineage, was birthed. That is what God planned marriage to be; marriage is supposed to be a wealthy place, and marriage is ordained by the Lord to be a land of wealth. He that finds a true spouse, a true husband and a true wife, finds a wealthy thing, finds a resourceful thing, finds a glorious thing and has obtained favour, increase and abundance from the Lord. So, if you are married, I want you to reconsider your spouse as a wealthy man or woman. 

4. ACKNOWLEDGE THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR SPOUSE

PHILEMON 4-6

I thank my God, making mention of thee always in my prayers, Hearing of thy love and faith, which thou hast toward the Lord Jesus, and toward all saints; That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus.

Some time ago, I was listening to the testimony of Christy Lane, that anointed singer, and she said that she was not a professional singer; she doesn’t sing. She didn’t join any choir, she didn’t do anything, but she was married. And one day, she was washing in the kitchen and was singing, and her husband rushed out from where he was and asked, “Who is here singing?” she said, “I am the one.” And the man began to plan for her to record those songs. He took her to the studio and got her to record the songs. The husband unlocked that wealth of anointing out of her spirit. That man could see a peculiar musical gift in his wife and helped bring it out to the world.

Finding out the wealth of divine deposits of God in your spouse is part of the assignment you have as a husband and as a wife, and if you can start before you get married but better still for you as a single sister or brother. As a husband or wife, do your very best to unlock the wealth in your spouse. Encourage your wife, find out the good traits, talents, gifts and grace in your wife, and fan them up; they will make her bigger and strengthen you and the family. What is the wealth that is locked up in your spouse? What are the traces of wealth you can see in your spouse? Determine that you won’t let him or her rest until that wealth is brought to the surface. 

PROVERBS 20:12

The hearing ear, and the seeing eye, the LORD hath made even both of them.

One of the things you must believe God for as a married man or woman is to have eyes that see and ears that can hear what God is saying, at least to your family and a heart that can perceive the things of God. It will be a blessing to your spouse, your children and your family as a whole. You must believe God to see the good things others might not see in themselves.

5. ENCOURAGE YOUR SPOUSE TO BE THE BEST HE OR SHE CAN BE

If I were you, as a man, I would pray that my wife should be great; do you know what it means? It means you will be greater! Therefore, if your wife is to be voted Vice Chancellor of a University, you should not discourage her; rather, you should let her have your full support.

If your wife becomes the President of a country today, it means that as a man, you have a role greater than that to play in life and destiny. Never bring your wife down; rather, take your place as a man and see wealth multiply in your house. I am not saying a wife should become selfish and careless! Don’t find yourself as a man being frightened at the rising of your wife. If your wife rises, your place is a higher place, and then you should rise higher. There shouldn’t be any competition in the home in any way such that someone feels threatened. As a wife, you must also learn that when God begins to lift and promote you, your husband remains your husband, and the head remains the head.

Encourage your partner to become the very best that he or she can be in life. Continually fire him or her up, motivate him or her and give him or her every necessary support that he or she may need. Is there any course, development programme, professional training, spiritual mentoring and training, or personal development your spouse should go through? Encourage, support and help him or her to go through it successfully. Do not allow your spouse to stay in a low place in life when he or she has everything it takes to be at the top.

6. LOVE AND SUBMISSION WILL UNLOCK GREAT TREASURES OF WEALTH

EPHESIANS 5:22, 25

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself for it;

However, when you fan to flame the grace of God in her, you will go higher yourself. God wants marriage to magnify you; He wants the wealth He has put in each person to come out and the combination of the two to break forth and fill the face of the earth with fruits. So don’t stop the flow that God put in your spouse.

As a woman, when your husband is working on your life to unlock the wealth of God in you, make things easy for him. Be submissive; stay under your husband. When he is trying to unlock wealth out of you and giving you space, and allowing you to take steps and decisions of greatness, then you make life easy for that man. Take the place of a wife, and don’t because of money, placement, or an official car become difficult and inaccessible.

7. HELP EACH OTHER TO LOVE, FOLLOW AND SERVE THE LORD

JOSHUA 24:15

Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. And the people answered and said, God forbid that we should forsake the LORD, to serve other gods;

Also, look at Ananias and Saphira in ACTS 5: 1-10.

One major factor that will ensure wealth is established and perpetuated in your family is that you, your spouse and your entire house must decide that God will come into everything in your marriage, home and family. You must encourage one another to love the Lord, follow the Lord and serve Him. Each of you must have a good and thriving relationship with the Lord. You must not just remain a Christian; you must be close to the Lord and encourage your wife to be close to Him as well. Your safety as a man or a woman is in the closeness of your spouse to the Lord. If your spouse is not close to the Lord and does not have a strong relationship with Him, when your spouse begins to derail, you will not know, and when the calamity strikes, you will be the first casualty.

  A sound and strong spiritual life is the structure that holds true riches.

8. SACRIFICE FOR YOUR SPOUSE              

As a woman, you must do all you can to ensure that your husband becomes who he must become under God. His wealthy place is his purpose in God, not who you want him to be. There is a time that a man is breaking ground in life, which is when he needs the understanding and support of the wife to be able to bear with him in self-denial and so many other things so that he can get to a certain platform that he could get to. Maybe your husband has to go for a course for six months; you, as the wife, must be ready to be the father and mother to the children. 

You must be ready to be anything your husband needs you to be for him to break ahead to what he must break into for his destiny to speak, not to start complaining.

Also, the man must not be selfish; there must be understanding at every point in time when he needs to sacrifice to support his wife. You must always seek the good of each other in the spirit of Christ.

9. LABOUR OVER YOUR SPOUSE

The reason you see some people keep to themselves sometimes is because of spouses that have let them down after going through pain with them. Because of that, you will observe people acting carefully and with suspicion towards their partner and saying things like, “If I go this far, what is in it for me?” In this kingdom, the reward for your labour is sure. The reward and profit over your labour are certain. God is not unrighteous to forget your labour of love. There is labour that you both must labour on each other to be what God wants you both to be. It is the husband’s labour over the wife and the wife’s labour over the husband that unlocks the depth of wealth that is hidden inside the two of them in the sight of men. And when the wealth in your spouse is unlocked, you will be the first beneficiary, so do that labour. 

Identify the labour you need to do over your spouse, accept it and give yourself to it. Then, do what your spouse needs you to do so that your spouse can be who he or she should be, and it shall be well with you in Jesus’ name.